It's so small.
It's so basic.
And, yet, it drives YOU bananas.
"Put the dishes in like this, not like this. You get maximum capacity this way!"
"She puts on the dishwasher every night. It drives me crazy!"
"He only puts the dishwasher on when it is overfull, bowls over top of cups and all, things don't get cleaned that way!"
For you, it may not be the dishwasher, but in every relationship, there are those silly, small things that cause so much distress and tension within your home.
It could be the way that he walks heavily in the morning, the way she leaves her purse perfectly in the middle of the hallway, how he burps every night after dinner, or how she leaves her makeup all over the vanity in the bathroom. It is usually predictable, common, and casual. And, most moments, you could do without it!
Let's point out one important truth here. The truth is you do it too.
There are things that YOU do your partner cannot stand. Whether or not he or she tells you is a different story, but I...
Have you ever been in a relationship and still felt lonely?
Have you had moments in your current partnership where you have felt misunderstood, isolated, forgotten, or even taken for granted?
I've been working with couples and families for over seven years, and relationship fulfillment is my number one area of study.
Often when we are in relationships for an extended period, we stop seeing our partner. Have you ever hung a picture up on the wall, and after a while, you forget that it is there? Or your best friend has had a tattoo for years, and you don't notice it anymore because you're so used to it being there, but when someone else points it out, it's like "Oh yea, that is there. I forgot."
Well, we often do that with spouses. We stop paying attention to their needs and tending to them in the way we first did because we are used to having them there. We chose to be in this relationship; we married them, so isn't that enough to show our love?
Relationships fulfillment requires...
“Jenna, my wife keeps calling me her husband, and I think my wife’s definition of a husband is a person who just doesn’t meet expectations.”
Although my client was laughing when he said this, I could see the genuine concern in his eyes. He seemed exhausted and fed up. Where did the relationship go? It started so great and was magical at the beginning, and then over time, love was lost. They haven’t been happy together for years.
Intimate relationships are messy and beautiful. They trigger us, challenge us, and also aliven and comfort us. Some days, relationships feel like work, and other days they feel easy and peaceful.
Love changes, grows and expands in ways we could never have predicted. Love is not just a feeling, but also energy, an energy that requires action. There is a difference between loving someone and practicing love. Practicing love means being unconditional, compassionate, and kind. Loving...
This WILL push your buttons.
This WILL shock you.
And this WILL happen.
Being a parent allows for many shocking moments. Moments that will make you laugh, make you cry, make you proud, make you mad, and many other moments that will make you question your parenting ability.
Teen moods are one of those things that will leave you having many moments of frustration, confusion, hurt, and anger if you allow it.
I want to share a few essential tips for you to remember as you are raising a precious human being who also happens to be a teen and help you become the exact parent your teen needs you to be.
As you read this complementary information to the video, I intend to spark some understanding. I want to remind you about where your teen is in terms of brain development and support you in creating your dream family life even when we are experiencing the pre/teen mood phase.
I think it is true that...
"I JUST EXPLODED ON CAMERA!"
"I was fuming mad. I was so mad. I can't tell you the level of anger I was feeling towards my children. They created this [stupid ;)] video. My own children set me up to react, and then they recorded it."
"I swear if my children are on TikTok one more time… I'm sick of it. I hate TikTok. I'm over it. I'm done. I'm going to take my son's phone and…"
It seems there is some passionate view towards the video-sharing social networking service, TikTok, and on our parenting call, this was made apparent. If you are a parent of a young adult, I am happy you are here. If you know of a parent with a young adult, please share this blog with them.
Things we cover in the video:
Building an empowering relationship around technology
Why your young adults ignore you
Why Tiktok is great
And, focus on praise
To complement the video:
Our children are born with phone ready hands. Their advanced...
It is no secret. Communication is the foundation of every relationship. And, more times than not, our family does not have a reliable communication floor.
To me, communication is like an invisible, security laser web trap with criss-cross paths and different level variations; one must fully understand to dodge around to successfully get to the vault. It's complicated. It's messy. It causes us to blame, throw [adult] tantrums, form tears, and abrupt goodbyes.
Because more often then not, the conversations we think we are having are not the conversations we are having.
Because we are so afraid of hurting someone or making someone else feel uncomfortable, we don't voice our truth in a clear, honest fashion.
Because we are interrupted, disputed, or shamed before we have the chance to get our point out, so we shut down, stop trying, or believe we are crazy for feeling the way we do.
Because we have been bombarded with all the "right" ways to talk to our special...